What kind of mom are you
What kind of mom am I? I read a post recently about a mom referring to herself as a "crunchy mom" and I thought what kind of new-age crazy talk is this? So I did some research and it is actually quite fun. In no way am I taking it seriously, I just thought the terms were fun and I would share :)
There are three terms I came across labeling different types of mommying: Crunchy, Silky and Scrunchy.
According to Urban Dictionary, ‘Crunchy Mom’ is defined as: "A member of an increasingly growing group of moms who are neo-hippies. They generally believe (for varying reasons) that there is something bad or less beneficial about buying mainstream products or doing other common activities in the mainstream way."
Otherwise known as the hippy mom. The one who delivers completely naturally at home in a pool, breastfeeds exclusively, co-sleeps, baby wears, a lot of the time now will "unschool" their children. Definitely favor cloth diapers to disposables, and practices gentle disciplining and the holistic approach to medicine. I resonate a lot with this category because I am turning into a kind of a self-proclaimed hippie these days; favoring the chemical-free life and eating plants over meat. I am such a strong believer in what we put into and onto our bodies directly relates to how we feel, especially after becoming pregnant and I want to instill that same behavior to my children.
Urban Dictionary later refers to a ‘Silky Mom’ as: "Modern mother who prefers medicated hospital birth, bottle feeding/ part-time breastfeeding, disposable diapers, crib sleeping, etc. One who follows the advice of established medical authority; often tend to be working moms who rely on modern products for convenience and time management." The mom who follows by the book. Otherwise known as the "modern mom". The exact kind of mom I THOUGHT I was going to be. The mom who follows schedules, and disciplines when necessary... I mean hey, I was spanked as a child and I turned out all right. The one who returns back to work after maternity leave, no questions asked, buys baby food in a jar and favors med-induced labor. I do follow some of this silkiness: I use disposable diapers because they are just easier, and do use medicines when necessary. But have geared more towards gentle discipline, organic homemade foods and baby wearing.
'Scrunchy mom' is referred to in the Urban Dictionary as: "A mom that is a mixture of both a silky and crunchy mom. One who may formula feed, and vaccinate as well as hospital birth but may use cloth diapers and make their own baby food. A mixture of both a Crunchy mom and a Silky mom. She may need to use formula out of necessity, or maybe practicality. She may use cloth diapers but also vaccinate on schedule. An important mixture of both, and doing everything in relation to the needs of her individual circumstance. I think, by process of elimination, I am a Scrunchy mom. I follow a lot of each of the ideas as a Crunchy mom but also as a Silky mom. I gave birth in a hospital which I did completely natural for 37 hours before I had to have an emergency C-section and I use disposable diapers. On the other hand, I am also a completely chemical-free, organic wannabe hippie mom who exclusively breastfeeds, has co-slept on multiple occasions, and loves to babywear. I also strongly believe in attachment parenting styles (which I NEVER thought I would...so weird how things change when you have your baby in your arms) and don't let him cry it out. I parent based on how my child guides me and what works for him as opposed to what I am told to do or how I was parented growing up. It's kind of funny, I did a lot of the things on both lists because they felt right for my baby and for our family. I didn't even know these terms existed until he was already a year old. It's funny how everything in life needs a label now, rather than just doing what feels right. Why do we NEED to label it? Nonetheless, I found this amusing, and I thought I would share. I don't actually refer to myself as any of the labels above, I parent the way I parent because it works, for us. You aren't any less of a mom because you can't breastfeed, or choose not to co-sleep. Also, let me just come out and say it: Why are you all competing so hard with one another? Whether you are a crunchy mom, a silky mom, or a scrunchy mom, you're still a mom. You're a mom whose number one priority is to keep her children healthy and happy, that's all there should be to it. I am SO F***ING TIRED of seeing all this damn mom-shaming... let's support one another for bloody sakes! Let's lift each other up and offer advice when we are in a vulnerable state instead of putting each other down for doing what we feel is right for our babies! At the end of the day, YOU ARE A F***ING SUPERHERO MOM and you are doing a damn great job!!!!! What kind of momma are you?